It doesn’t bother me that Christians can’t see the forest for the trees.
It bothers me that they don’t want to learn to see the forest.
It doesn’t bother me that Christians can’t see the forest for the trees.
I have been reading a book called Mindfulness and Money by Kulananda and Dominic Houlder. In the chapter called “Cultivate Contentment” there is this quote:
So much of our consumption stems from a desire simply to be here now, fully alive in the moment. But rather than trying to get there by buying things, we can short-circuit the process and get there by dropping our neurotic desires and waking up to the feel of the breeze on our cheek and the warmth of the sun on our arms. Just attending to simple, fleeing sensations we can experience the wonder and beauty of simply being alive. The monetization and commodification of all aspects of our lives deadens us to the beauty of life itself.
It’s funny when an author, someone I have never met, captures what I have been trying to achieve in a simple, succinct paragraph. They are not speaking of giving up every possession and living like a monk. They are trying to get us all to remember that life is beautiful, and we should be more aware of the small wonders that life gives us every day. Contentment will never come from a new pair of shoes, a bigger car, or more cable channels.
The release of things material, the pure pleasure in movement and moment, is embodied in the poem by Tim Deegan called The Bike:
Here’s an excerpt:
and for a few blissful moments…
everything passes by strangely quiet and slow
and blurry and clear and fast at the same time
and there is no thought of work
or house payments or music
or even self
Without the bike, would this moment exist? No. The idea here is not to give up all possessions, it is to determine the ones that truly make you happy or supply a need and chuck the rest. Then take what you have and immerse yourself in the moments that life brings, each and every one, good and bad, because in the end only experiencing life with our full self will bring true happiness.
We should pursue the things that bring us joy, the moments in life when we are fully in the moment, embracing life and all it has to offer. Life is not money, or power, or possessions, it is the sun in our hair, the wind in our face, the times when our muscles or mind are screaming from exertion, the love that we feel from our friends and families. Accept what life has to offer, give up the “things” that are holding you back. Less really is more. When we figure out what we need, instead of what we want, then our real desires will be fulfilled and we will be content. Content does not equal static. Contentment comes when we understand what is important to us, and we pursue it relentlessly, finding that sweet spot and dwelling in it as much as possible. It is never material items. It is always something less tangible.
I’m a very curvy girl in SL. I’m a very curvy girl in RL too. One of the things I have always enjoyed about SL is that I can buy largely anything I’d like to, and if the designer has done their job right, I can make it fit, big chest and all. In RL, sometimes even my tailor is confounded and can’t alter a garment to fit. But in SL, that has rarely been a problem.
Until now. Mesh clothing has come to SL, and I love it. I can’t wear any of it though. Why? Designers apparently have no desire to design for the curvy girl. In SL, as RL, apparently if you have boobs, nobody wants you to wear their clothes.
Yes, I know the deformer is coming. But with rigging, I will still likely only be able to wear some things. Hair is a perfect example. I have been to both Wasabi Pills and Truth….Truth Hawkes has combined mesh and flexi prims to make hair that is really wonderful. I can’t wear it though. Rigging is done so the mesh will move with your body….unless of course your body protrudes in front. I have run across this problem with every mesh hair I have tried. Goes right through my chest. No bones to rig to in breasts apparently.
I don’t want to hear “just change your shape”. NO. I have made small changes to fit boots or some regular prim clothing, and this is a reasonable thing to do… but I won’t make a major change just to accommodate fashion. And I shouldn’t have to! I like the way I look.
So this is a post to plead with designers. Please please please, try to think beyond the small tit box. Please. I’m begging. Most of you already have an XS, S, M, L and XL in the box. Make a curvy that’s REALLY curvy. C cups are not curvy! Try a DD. Or bigger! The designers who do this will end up with the lion’s share of business in SL. I have 100 hairs in my inventory. I have 30k items, and I don’t build. Think about that. I have money to spend, and I’d love to spend it on mesh clothing and accessories. Let me throw my money at you!
Sometimes we read a sentence that’s so bizarre on it’s face that it makes us laugh out loud.
In the latest installment in our occasional series, we provide the full context for Rick Santorum’s 2008 comments about Satan.
Yes, I did take the time to find out more!
It is one thing for a journalist to be lost in the thick of battle, doing what they love in a place that most of us would not ever dream of going. It’s another entirely for them to be a target of those opposed to the dissemination of the truth. Sad day.
Alaric and I spend a lot of time roaming the world and initiating contact with avatars all over the grid. We meet a diverse cross section of SL, and I think we try not to limit our interaction to those who are like minded. Rather, there are times we seek out those who may have different ideas or life experiences; these people have broadened our outlook on the world and ourselves.
That said, it is an interesting thing for me to see people who are limited in their ability to understand what someone else is going through…even though they themselves have been through it. Being new in SL is the epitomotic example (yes that’s right, I make up words. Deal with it). Noobs are often ridiculed and derided for their behavior or appearance in SL, and rarely in a lighthearted way. Yet all of us who are players of this game have been there…and we consequently understand what a wickedly high learning curve there is to become barely proficient in the world, let alone an expert. As a noob, we are awash with a myriad of unfamiliar sights, sounds, commands, buttons, people, and places, as we are trying to learn an interface that is a confusing amalgamation of buttons and drops downs, and menus, right click left click double click? Even online in-world etiquette provides endless opportunities for noob faux pas.
And yet, even though we have all been the new guy, many of us seem to lack the ability to empathize with our fellow avatars who are in this situation. Which brings me to my point. In a world where we have actually been through what the other guy is going through, experienced for ourselves the ridiculous hoops and obstacles that are put in the path of that individual to be able to accomplish even the smallest task, where achieving simple things are a triumph, if we cannot find it in ourselves to find compassion and assist these people, how are we ever going to do it in the “real” world, a world where the consequences of failure are often dire?
SL offers a unique opportunity for all of us to become proficient at these critical skills compassion and empathy, and to do it at very little cost to ourselves. Putting yourself out there and making yourself available to others can help hone (or learn!) these most important skills. Personal responsibility in life is important, but when others need real assistance and we can give it so that they can also learn and grow, it helps us all as individuals and as a society.
Help a noob today…and save the world.
On big banks not giving big bonuses:
“Compared to four years ago its night and day, partially because the regulators are insisting on it…and partly because the supervisory board of banks have said we have got to balance the reward of our senior team with the reward of our long-term shareholders. And part of it is the business model has changed,” a senior investment banker at a major Wall Street firm said.
Notice, nowhere does it say, reward the front line employees who deal with the day to day operation of your business that makes you so much money. Notice, nowhere does it say, reward the loyal customer, with reduced costs. Pfft. THIS is why Occupy Wall Street exists. Because we’re all outraged at the “supervisory boards” and regulators who forget where all this profit comes from.
I want alternative energy to no longer be an alternate.